Being a young wife and mother has taught me a lot of things, and one of the most useful is the art of appearing to be in control. The fact is, you will never truly be “in control,” so you have to master looking like you are. I'm willing to teach you this art if you are willing to listen.If your child starts screaming in the grocery store, and everyone looks at you like you're the worst mom on the planet, start screaming as well.